PinnedPublished inThe ROSI Co-opWhen Someone Suggests I ‘Just Let It Go’Why can’t I brush those pesky sexual abuse memories under the rug? They are such a downer for my loved ones, after all…Feb 11, 2021356Feb 11, 2021356
What’s the difference between BDSM and Assault?Spoiler alert: It’s consent. Enthusiastic, ethical, communicative, ongoing consent. How do I know? I’ve lived it both ways.Feb 11, 2021297Feb 11, 2021297
Published inThe ROSI Co-opStages of Sexual Abuse and RecoveryThese stages serve as a framework for making sense of a life steeped in sexual trauma. Hopefully, friend, it will make sense for you, too…Feb 5, 2020292Feb 5, 2020292
The Guy/Girl Experience in an Open Lifestyle (Part 1): Open Marriage; Now What?The first of a six-part series about the role, reality, and perception of men and women in an open lifestyle.Oct 16, 20191491Oct 16, 20191491
Reclaiming the FantasyI came across bits and pieces of myself today. They were my naughty, sexual fantasies. Raw images and plotlines that only come out when…Mar 13, 20192722Mar 13, 20192722
Catch UpIt’s one thing to take a breath. Self-Care is all over the place as a solution when life makes us hectic. It’s quite another thing…Mar 4, 201910Mar 4, 201910
Soothing: “What’s Wrong, Honey?”You ask me, “What? What’s wrong? What did I do now?”Feb 19, 2019Feb 19, 2019
Published inThe ROSI Co-opSnapshot of a Shower SceneDaily life goes on after rape. After assault. After being yanked from one normal routine and spit into another reality. The sun comes up…Feb 14, 201921Feb 14, 201921
Andrew’s View: Maybe Tonight will be DifferentMaybe tonight will be different, Andrew thought, glancing up the stairway. Maybe tonight will be the night where things work out. Maybe…Feb 8, 2019Feb 8, 2019
The Ugly in Us: T.N. and Andrew’s StoryShadows flickered in the candlelit bedroom, and soft music played. The bed was large and inviting. A quick look inside the space could…Feb 4, 201914Feb 4, 201914
Space Invaders:This snapshot is where Space Invading started, how Breachers showed up in family life, and why shooting them down was the most significant…Jan 11, 201911Jan 11, 201911
Personal Space: The Marital Impact of my Sexual TraumaNo place is too far away, now that I’ve been laid bare. — Me, then. Get the fuck away from me. — Me, now.Jan 11, 201951Jan 11, 201951